The concept that I’m going to cover today is Positive Masculinity. As my colleague pointed out, it’s actually a quite timely issue to be discussing. One of the brilliant things I find about Positive Psychology is the way it frames certain social constructs. In a world where lack of empathy and understanding is supercharged, it is necessary for us to create intentionally positive frames for discussing things. Otherwise, we risk everything being viewed through a very pessimistic lense.
Now I was in the audience. When I get the chance to visit teams, I often take the opportunity to sit in on team meetings or watch practice. In each case, I think they are invaluable learning opportunities for me. One of the luckiest parts of what I do for work is that I get to see coaches from all over the country and across the world run their team.
That does mean, however, that when someone is doing something other than what I’ve landed upon at that moment, I can be quite judgmental. If there is a right, then there must be a wrong. Over the years, I have learned to think less black and white while holding on to my own judgments about what is right and wrong. I’ve learned that there is more than one absolute right in any given situation.
Last week, I wrote about how we all make mistakes, and told a story of a shameful chapter from my own career. Concurrently to publishing that post, I sent it to the former swimmer in question, and I apologized and sought forgiveness.
